Sounds like you arent clicking your location in the top box, then clicking your destination in the bottom
I believe sk is working on caching the shit GT does on startup. It's never been much of a problem for any of us, I've never had to "plan out" a play session for any reason. Watch a video while it's loading or something lol As for basemates, yeah. Playing with randoms is a mistake, but if you can find someone who you work well with and get along with, it works out fine. My friend and basemate recently stopped playing MC so I'm SOL on that regard anyway. Shit happens.
Well that's no reason to be an ass to everyone. The latest update cuts down load time a massive amount as well.