Last night, I watched a few episodes of Tales of the Crypt, an old, creepy anthology series that aired on HBO, beginning in 1989. It features your MC, the skeletal Crypt Keeper, telling creepy tales that do contain swearing, suggestive dialogue, scary moments, and in some cases, sexual situations. Basically, TV-MA horror. The first episode even includes a scene with a cage dancer, her breasts really being shown. When I questioned my dad on why he wanted me to watch THAT, he replied,in a man-to-man talk, "Breasts are good." So, u ever watched this show? Do u like it? Do you agree with my dad?
I guess you father noticed you grew up so he thought he needed to be "closer to you" (as you said, man-to-man talks for example) and that might have been the way he has found to make his approaching to you "begin"! PS: breasts may be good if you know what to do with them or 'their owners'!
I realize there is something to do with them, but considering I'm not much of a perv, I intend to not litter my mind with images of what is done with them. However, my dad clearly did not know of Tales of the Crypt's more mature content (beyond swear words), so at least I have seen such a scene for the first time without a parent around. In concise words, I would rather not think or see breast-related activity other than cooking chicken breasts, but my dad had no idea that would show up. And, surprisingly, I got to see a sexual scene without an adult in the room, and yet my dad still thinks he should skip the sexual scenes in The Matrix Reloaded. Oh well. I should shut up now.
This is one of the thread proofing how open-minded are most of SKCraft's members! Seriously, go out in ANY MC-based forum you want, you will never find a such post, with such answers!
Oh god I don't know if I should say I'm sorry for you or If I should wish you good luck from now on! Maybe both work quite well! hahah
Yes. If by open-minded you mean ignorant as hell, then yes. In my opinion. I am going to offer the alternative perspective: Pornography is not something that should be encouraged, in fact it should be actively avoided. It is a drug. It is highly addictive, it is incredibly destructive to your neurochemical balance in the brain when paired with self-stimulation. A brain addicted to self stimulation and pornography is very similar to someone with a cocaine, heroine, or other hard-drug addiction. It is a real problem, it is not widely understood, science is lagging the advances in pornography availability, but it is incredibly destructive to your physical well being, your brains higher function, and ultimately interpersonal relationships with women/men with whom you want a relationship that is beyond mere sex. To those already addicted, withdrawal symptons when you try to abstain are quite real, and it takes 10-12 months for your brain's makeup to normalize once you have abandoned pornography and self stimulation. If you choose to dive into the "sea of sex" as Chaeris says, by all means, do so. But I cannot stress enough that if you value your health and interpersonal relationships decades from now, do not take the plunge. Listen to Madness if you desire, but there are other options than wholesale self-destruction. Slavery to the dopamine production centers in your brain is hardly a life.
Go two weeks, Madness, without looking at Pornography, or self-stimulating. See if you can. Just two weeks. Do it. If it's just propaganda, it should be easy, right? Same to you, two weeks, do it. See if you can. For myself, it took me years to be able to go two weeks, and today? I've been free of that junk for the entire year. It's not propaganda. It's a very real condition. Just because everyone around you says "Do it!" doesn't mean it's healthy or a good thing. And I have no intention of standing by, watching you tell this 14 year old who by all indications has avoided pornography in a significant way until now, that it's perfectly fine and jump into it. Edit: http://yourbrainonporn.com/
Masturbation releases stress and aggression. It's also not really an addiction because i have phases where i don't want to. 2 weeks is not a long time either, bro. Everyone is different, it's just hormones (real science which i'm sure you'll deny) and these are very complex little buggers which determine everything we do and desire.
This is called "medicating the pain." So do it. Yes, everyone is different. But it's substantially more than hormones, it's also neurotransmitters and neurochemicals and pathways in your brain. Why would I deny hormones? Go check out the site, it's scientific (!) /sarcasm. Hormones, by the way, influence what we do but they do not determine everything we do and desire. Monthly menstruation cycles and their release of hormones can make things much more difficult for women, but they do not compel them to action. From Wikipedia, a convenient source of definitions... Neuroplasticity (from neural - pertaining to the nerves and/or brain and plastic - moldable or changeable in structure), also known as brain plasticity, refers to changes in neural pathways and synapses which are due to changes in behavior, environment and neural processes, as well as changes resulting from bodily injury.[1] Neuroplasticity has replaced the formerly-held position that the brain is a physiologically static organ, and explores how - and in which ways - the brain changes throughout life.[2] In essence, you can train your brain. Pornography trains your brain to a certain type of behavior and dependence all without you actively trying to train it to do so. You really need to get over your personal bias where I am concerned and stop assuming that my entire life, and everything I say, depends upon an ancient religious text for reasoning.
When I was in 8th grade I went to Washington DC on a field trip. My friend and I were sitting on the steps of some monument or other watching the tourists and political ladies walking by. I turned to him and said, "Bill, what is the big deal about breasts?" He thought about it a few minutes and turned back to me and said "Well, they are mouthwatering mounds of flesh." Wise words from a young man. I will leave you with this... watching a romantic scene with your parents in the same room never, ever gets less awkward. Never.
Let's return five minutes to Kirazy, I think this will shut everyone's mouth, or at least I hope it won't turn things worse... Kirazy is right, and we all guys must admit we tried but didn't stop, especially because we don't really have arguments to stop, and even Kirazy hasn't got argument to show us how dangerous it is. So because this all happens in our brains, and mainly because of hormones, we mustn't deny it always start and the beginning of puberty. I don't know if womens masturbate too, and I'm quite interested to know if it's because of puberty, or our specific hormones, I can describe as accurate as possible what happens. You just feel a sort of need, equivalent to when you need to eat, and you begin to turn anything you see or hear into a sexy thing, which makes you to actually turn on, then your need becomes greater and even if you don't really want, like for five seconds you think "No I mustn't", then you come back to this and actually think "Why shouldn't I ?" and so you do anything you do... This is how I describe it, and it seems quite different than all I heard up to know about women's masturbation, actually like an interesting thing to test, and actually for ladies it doesn't seem to be a real need, and look sometimes so "horrible" or "uncomfortable" that most of them stop. BTW I don't really know, because... I'm 14 and I don't know any enough open-minded girl (and I will never ask any member of my family, this would seem totally too awkward) to explain me and tell me about this... So Kirazy, yes that's a drug, yes we cannot really definitely stop, but why should we stop ? Because it's disgusting ? You don't have to be there to see: everyone's poop does that mean we must stop ? If disgusting-ness isn't your point, then WHAT ? WHY should we stop ? BTW, when you actually reported that masturbating causes Neuroplasticity causing self body damages, I deny it completely. And also, it might be confused in the message, but actually I know you're a man. And finally, this boy is hesitating, but as he said, he already looks sexy scenes in movies, so he'll probably get REAL psychological problems if he doesn't choose his way, so Kirazy, you must actually convince him if it's not too late... EDIT: I figured out that masturbating makes Adrenaline, Dopamine, Noradrenaline, and such things to free... Like when you are preparing yourself to a physical activity, or even just listening to a music (when you feel the music is actually shivering you as when you're cold)
One of the books I've read on this subject has one of the situations you put forward, Chaeris: Teen: "Why should I stop?" Recovering Addict: "Because you can't." Sex is perfectly natural, and a healthy part of a long-term relationship. I won't bore you with my value system on which contexts I believe sex should be expressed in; but that we shouldn't addict ourselves to pornography and self-stimulate has nothing to do with "disgusting" or "gross". It has everything to do with a life that is progressively unmanagable as you grow more and more dependent on pornography. Pornography is progressive in nature (or regressive, depending on your choice of view), which is to say that you will grow bored of certain types and seek out that which is more titillating and arousing, seeking greater and greater highs. "BTW, when you actually reported that masturbating causes Neuroplasticity causing self body damages, I deny it completely." It doesn't cause neuroplasticity. Neuroplasticity is the natural state of your brain, constantly adjusting and wiring/unwiring on an ongoing and continual basis. Masturbation merely creates undesirable connections in the brain. Your edit, where you talk about preparing to do a physical activity, or doing said activity, and you have adrenaline surges and such that cause your body to shake and tremble with sheer excitement, is something I personally have experienced during the period where I was undergoing withdrawal from self-stimulation. I'd say it took around 6 weeks for my body to at least acclimatize to no longer having regular self-stimulation, but during that time I was significantly more emotionally volatile, twitchy, the occasional headaches, and on those occasions where relapse was in its beginning stages my body would flood with the chemicals that are involved in sexual release. I should note that orgasm only adds serotonin to the suite of chemicals flooding through your body, and that from the moment you are aroused, adrenaline, dopamine and related chemicals are already being produced and flooding your system. What are the consequences of not addressing a pornography addiction and doing something about it? It varies, from person to person, and it is a spectrum. There are the extreme situations where people literally destroy their lives in a quest for pornography, spending all day looking at and masturbating to pornography. That represents the far end of pornography addiction, where your life has become totally unmanageable and you have no control over your behavior at that point, living basically day to day with desperate need. You can even despise pornography at that point, but the craving is quite real and powerful. But that's an extreme. More typically pornography addiction impacts relationships with another person and an inability to become sexually involved with them. Erectile dysfunction, disinterest towards real people, are real and documented side effects. The site I linked to discusses the reasons for this, as with an addiction of this nature you are seeking novelty and excitement, which pornography provides, and real sex generally does not. Porn is fast, intense, and "exciting". And when you become bored, you find something more exciting and intense. This is novelty. What it does for you in reality, is when you have a girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/whathaveyou, you find that it is difficult to have sex with them because it's not as fast, not as hot, not as exciting, and you'll end up turning to pornography to get you in the game as it were, thinking of someone and something else even as you intercourse with your partner in the flesh. It robs you of a real deep connection with an individual, and distracts you day to day. Porn at work, porn on the plane, these all can get you in trouble, significant trouble. Seriously though, read the site and the articles. I only ran across it today to find something I could link to (all my materials on this subject are physical books and workbooks, and knowledge gained from professional counseling on the subject). As to stopping and breaking free? Possible. Not recommended to try to do it alone, that's just a road to stress and frustration at your own lack of willpower and weakness. But resources (both strictly secular, and also religious functions) exists to help people break free. There are real gains from doing so. My life is in a much better place already for having broke free, but staying free will remain an ongoing effort and require changes in my own behavior. But I cannot recommend strongly enough that if you are not already swimming in porn, not to do so, and if you are, to examine your life and your pornography habits and ask yourself whether you would consider your life in control or out of control. "According to current peer-reviewed academic literature, almost 90 percent of college age young men and 30 percent of the young women view pornography." Jason S. Carroll, Laura M. Padilla-Walker, Larry J. Nelson, Chad D. Olson, Carolyn McNamara Barry, Stephanie D. Madsen, “Generation XXX: Pornography Acceptance and Use Among Emerging Adults,” Journal of Adolescent Research, Vol. 23( 1) 2008, 6-30.
Well, I am stunned at the amount of responses to my thread. Although I did not expect sex education. I could use at least one reaction to the show itself, not the sex scene in episode 1. At least this thread is more popular than my Doctor Who thread. Btw, I need more people to see it! Not one reply in weeks!
